Sex addiction is described as one person’s suffering that is acted on through sexual acts as a way of finding solace. Sex becomes soothing and an escape from depression, loneliness, anxiety, fear, boredom, or emptiness. Unfortunately, the effects are almost always devastating. Some of the effects of sex addiction include loss of freedom, diminished relationships, insatiable need for sex, sexual fantasy, financial ruin, and a lonely life. According to professionals, sex addicts usually come from a dysfunctional mother-child relationship wherein the mother was unable to provide nurturing attention, tolerance, and care in a healthy way to the child. Thus, the child grows up with a sense of abandonment, separation anxiety, and a fragmented image. The solution is to seek intimacy with an idealized person to compensate for the missing nurturing – and it never works. A person deprived of the proper childhood needs healing in order to enjoy a healthy intimate relationship. This person will have to dispel the negative emotions and narcissistic tendencies instead of acting out needs in a sexual manner. The goal of sex therapy is to build on healthy relationships through empathy and help improve the addict’s self esteem. During therapy, the sex addict learns to regulate moods, seek healthy and supportive relationships, and enjoy activities that are satisfying to replace the time usually spent on sex. Ultimately, the goal of sex therapy is to put sex in its proper perspective and free the addict to pursue relationships that will give him personal satisfaction in a healthy way.
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By Dorothy Hayden, LCSW What’sthe bottom line when it comes to sex addiction? Basically, acting out is an act of self-soothing. More on the reasons how and why people get caught up in the cycle of sex addiction here, from a therapist who’s been helping people for decades.[[ This is a content summary only. Visit my website for full links, other content, and more! ]] …read more